Sex ed for teens who’ve had, well, nothing.

Last night, as so often happens when you work at Planned Parenthood, a good friend of mine came to me with a problem. While usually I get asked about sexual health (remind me to tell you about the time a guy at a party started asking me about the little red bumps on his genitals) my friend Carla* needed advice — for her 14 year old cousin.

See, her cousin lives in Florida, goes to a private Christian school, and, apparently, has had no sex education. I get the feeling her school teaches some sort of abstinence program (when Carla mentioned condoms her cousin’s response was ‘but don’t they break?’) and her mom hasn’t felt comfortable bringing it up. So when she ran into savvy New York City-based cousin Carla at a wedding this weekend, the questions started coming pouring out.

Carla was *shocked* at how little her cousin knew. Even though she’d been getting her period for a year, she had no idea what it was or where it came from. Her cousin knew that babies somehow came from sex, but had no clue about the mechanics or how it happened. Carla filled her in as much as she could, but as the questions started getting trickier (‘so what exactly would I do if I did have sex and got pregnant?’) Carla started feeling more and more in over her head.

She turned to me for advice, and last night over dinner, after lamenting the fact that a school could even get away with giving kids little to no sex education, we started brainstorming. In addition to Carla giving her cousin’s mom the PPNYC guide for parents (Hey, What do I Say?) we decided to give her cousin the following:

That’s all we could think of for now – I know I’ve had Our Bodies, Ourselves since high school and still refer to it all the time. But what else have people used? What worked for you? What have you seen that was good?

Photo thanks to Metrix X.

*Name has been changed to protect her teenage cousin.

One Comment

  1. Posted July 8, 2009 at 5:23 pm | Permalink

    that’s so scary to me! I come from westchester county, NY, and my family was always extremely open and straightforward about all those things! I’d be a totally different person if I didn’t grow up with all that knowledge..

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